My granddaughter, Merritt Miles, at five years old, was the inspiration for, 8 Keys to Lasting Love. While reading her a fairy tale I was very disturbed by what I was about to say to her when I read; "And they lived happily ever after." So, I took the liberty of changing the ending to, "They began the work of creating a very good marriage." I didn't want Merritt thinking, as so many of my clients had, that marriage was so simple, that it just magically happened and couples lived happily every after. As a marriage and family therapist for thirty years, I have seen the pain people experience after the honeymoon is over, when they awaken realizing they have married a mere mortal. I hope my granddaughter, as she enters adulthood, will avoid the pitfalls and pain of those who succumb to this "happily ever after" myth.
1. Stop blaming. Start living. It is our responsibility, and not our partner's, to feel better and to heal. Our partner will be responsible to us, but not for us.
Read Dr. Miles' entire article Lasting Love: 8 Keys to a Lasting Love
Dr. Linda Miles, our official Marriage and Family Therapist Expert
I can't agree more with you. So many "victims" in relationships are serial victims, believing that how they feel is caused by someone other than themselves. The events are real, the attitude we take towards them determine the eventual outcome.
I have subscribed to feed.
Posted by: Karen Kline | December 28, 2010 at 10:31 PM