"There's something I need from you...but, I know you probably will mess it up in your delivery."
Imagine for a moment that you are on the receiving end of this. Do you think you would want to even try to deliver? I don't think so, do you?
Chances are if you know partner abuse, you have stumbled on this from both ends. That's right, you heard me. You have probably been on the receiving end of expecting you to mess up before you're out of the gate. And you, too, have communicated the same message to your spouse ("Get ready dear, I'm going to mess up.").
Read Dr. King's entire article Controlling Husband - Building Partnership Over One-upmanship in Controlling Relationships
Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D., our official Abusive Relationships Expert
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