Oftentimes the signs of domestic abuse confuse us. We think of it as the obvious and fail to acknowledge the subtle, unless we are on the receiving end.
For example, I hear couples speak about the abuse in their relationships as though they are referring to two separate relationships. And the perception of each person often misses the experience of the other.
Abuser's Perspective
He sees the "blowup" episodes, which he meekly refers to as the "incidents." ...And he wonders why she can't just forgive and forget.
For example, I hear couples speak about the abuse in their relationships as though they are referring to two separate relationships. And the perception of each person often misses the experience of the other.
Abuser's Perspective
He sees the "blowup" episodes, which he meekly refers to as the "incidents." ...And he wonders why she can't just forgive and forget.
From his perspective, months have passed and he can't (so he says) understand why she's still fearful of him. "For crying out loud," he declares, "I haven't laid my hands on her in over half a year and she still withholds intimacy."
Read Dr. King's entire article Subtle Signs of Domestic Abuse - When Innuendo Is as Fierce as a Fist
Dr Jeanne King, Ph.D., our official Abusive Relationships Expert
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