Here are some ways to tell your partner the truth with love:
When you discuss issues with your partner, be genuine and be present. Don't let your mind wander. Maintain eye contact. If you are upset, empathize with how she or he feels. Use "soft eyes" to convey the idea that you're on their side. If either of you tends to change the subject rather then deal with it, create an agenda of issues to discuss as a reminder to stay on task. If you disagree with that your partner is saying, wait your turn. Don't interrupt. When it's your turn, instead of saying,"You're wrong," try, "I see things differently."
When you discuss issues with your partner, be genuine and be present. Don't let your mind wander. Maintain eye contact. If you are upset, empathize with how she or he feels. Use "soft eyes" to convey the idea that you're on their side. If either of you tends to change the subject rather then deal with it, create an agenda of issues to discuss as a reminder to stay on task. If you disagree with that your partner is saying, wait your turn. Don't interrupt. When it's your turn, instead of saying,"You're wrong," try, "I see things differently."
If your partner is not forthcoming about an issue, ask what's wrong in a way that doesn't invite a yes or no answer. Ask, for example, "What's troubling you?" rather than, "Is something troubling you?
Read Dr. Miles' entire article Listen With Your Heart - 10 Tips For Couple Communication
Dr. Linda Miles, our official Marriage & Family Therapist Expert
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