Dr. Linda Miles, Our official Marriage & Family Therapist Expert says:
SURVIVORS AND THRIVERS: Couples may tend to have a short frame and lose sight of the big picture. Many couples may be tempted to throw in the towel rather than see that marriage is a growing machine . Couples who have been married for decades often take pride in how they have faced hardships together.
BITTER OR BETTER: Ask yourselves how economic challenges can make you better instead of bitter.
Read Dr. Miles entire article Facing Financial Hard Times Together -- Twenty Two Keys for Couples
An article chock full of good ideas. Most couples already know that they should grow together and/or avoid contempt.
What they may not be so aware of is why they ignore this knowledge when they get triggered in places that seem to erupt automatically. Read articles on couples conflict and couples communication at http://www.drjeanetteraymond.com
The importance of each partner tuning into unconscious motives for yelling, giving the silent treatment, hurting, avoiding discussions, playing the martyr and so on is the most effective way of following the advice in this article. Being curious is one of the best ways of being present in a couple relationship. Check out my blog on couples: http://wwwcouplesspeakdecoded.blogspot.com
Dr. Jeanette Raymond.
Posted by: Dr. Jeanette Raymond | April 28, 2009 at 07:33 PM