After the Abusive Relationship - Remedies for What Next: Do What You Love

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D., Our official Abusive Relationships Expert says:

Leaving an abusive relationship is more like leaving your life because often one has to walk away from their home and family and friends, simply to get their safety and well-being back. And once on the other side of the abusive relationship, many say "Now what?"

Here's What's Next: Do What You Love

Find some activity that when you do it, you long to do more of it. This is what you're "called" to do.

Read Dr. King's entire article After the Abusive Relationship - Remedies for What Next: Do What You Love

Comments

[Dr. Jeanette Raymond]

Getting away from abusive relationships or finding a way of preventing another cycle of abuse is very difficult.

Perhaps you witnessed emotional abuse, verbal abuse and neglect as a child and it was the norm rather than the exception. Your tolerance may be high, and the need to feel strong by withstanding it just part of the deal.

Often the only time you may have got attention is when you were being verbally or emotionally abused. That may have set up an association in the brain - attention equals abuse - that was how you got attached and felt safe when you had no choice.

Getting out of that trap takes a conscious effort. It means learning about what gets triggered inside you and how to interpret it. You can learn the ten mistakes that couples should avoid at http://wwwcouplesspeakdecoded.blogspot.com/

[Nora Curtis]

In order to be able even to remember what do you love, and gather the energy to do it, you need to put the pieces of your life together....Takes some time to heal, and you have to be patient with yourself, as if you were recovering from a serious ailment like cancer....Treat yourself well, put yourself first of everything and give TLC to the small person inside you who needs to grow her self-esteem with security!
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