Where Are All the Real Men?

I spend hours creating programming to prevent the addition or purging the existence of articles about male enhancement from IdeaMarketers. There's all kinds of articles I have to remove in an effort to keep a G-rated site in a world obsessed with sexual performance. You would think people had nothing else to concern themselves with but this subject that's been around since the dawn of man.  If we haven't figured it out yet, people, forget it.

What bothers me most about this whole subject is the fact that love, marriage, and relationships are about so much more than the bedroom.  Give me a man who provides and protects. Give me a man who fights for a good cause, who has a spirit of adventure, who pursues me in romantic ways. Give me chivalry, not Viagra. Why aren't there more articles that talk about how to be a real man? How to treat a woman? How to sweep her off her feet with romance and adventure?

The world has men convinced all manhood is about is a piece of their anatomy. Sorry, fellas, every one of you's got one of those. Differentiate yourself by being a man of integrity, courage, valor and strength. Be a man who works hard and fights for a good cause. Be a champion, perhaps even a little dangerous in a good way. Be a man – a real man. Not someone obsessed with sex, porn, television, or sports.

Be a man who gets out and tames an unruly yard, plows a field, builds a barn, climbs a mountain, canoes a river, comes to the rescue of a woman in distress. Heck, take out the garbage, fix a leaky faucet, pressure wash your house. Be a man of action.

I've been reading "Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul" by John and Stasi Eldredge. On page 37, John talks about how he and his wife went to an art exhibit in Santa Fe. After looking at art for days, his wife asked, 'Have you seen one painting of a naked man?'

He writes his answer, "After days of looking at maybe a thousand pieces of art, we had not seen one painting devoted to the beauty of the naked masculine form. Not one….For one thing, men look ridiculous lying on a bed buck naked, half-covered with a sheet. It doesn't fit the essence of masculinity. Something in you wants to say, 'Get up already and get a job. Cut the grass. Get to work.'

"For Adam is captured best in motion, doing something. His essence is strength in action. That is what he speaks to the world. He bears the image of God, who is a warrior. On behalf of God, Adam says, 'God will come through. God is on the move.' That is why a passive man is so disturbing. His passivity defies his very essence. It violates the way he bears God's image. A passive man says, 'God will not come through. He is not acting on your behalf.'"

So my plea to men is to stop worrying about size and girth and duration and worry about being a man in action –- a man who makes things happen, who fights for a cause, who pursues the lady he loves with chivalry and valor. For heaven's sake, be men!

Comments

[Lisa Rae Preston]

Marnie, this post is amazing, and should be shared with everyone with testosterone on the planet.
Fantastic points, and you had me laughing, too!

[Jmtuc1]

I am so thrilled to see this article! I have been scraming to the top of lungs about these so-called men that want to be pursued and expect gifts and calls..they act like they are women! Omg, its so pathetic! They act like they are afraid of rejection so they want the ladies to make the first move! I am also appauled at the ladies that feed this "feminine" behavior of men! I love being pursued as a lady and I would love to see the men that know how to be real men! Thank you for your insight into this growing concern!

[Joyce Moseley Pierce]

As Brad Paisley says, "Thank God, I'm still a guy!" I think in wanting men to understand us, we have made them think they need to be LIKE us. I don't want a sissy man, but it would be nice to have one who truly listened and tried to understand. Thank goodness, when that doesn't work, I have girlfriends who will!