"When I tell you 'no,' you wear me down until I tell you 'yes.' And then I wonder what I'm doing with you, because deep down inside I know I'm not happy." Sound familiar?
Domestic violence survivors tell me that they frequently have no say in couple's decisions. Instead, they have a routine charade of "getting her consent" when the fact is what she really does is give up on holding her own.
One-Way Decisions in Abusive Relationships
The push-pull becomes so unpleasant that pursuing her wishes costs more in turmoil than not having her wishes fulfilled in the first place. She becomes practiced in the path of least resistance.
Read Dr. King's entire article Abusive Relationship Signs - Unilateral Decision Making in Abusive Relationships
Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D., our official Abusive Relationships Expert